Getting Over The Hurdles For Your Guests List - A Guide For Same-Sex Couples In Massachusetts

So first you had to "come out of the closet."  Then you had to figure out "who liked you out of the closet and who didn't."  You know, the family, friends, drama, acceptance thing.  And for some of you, you may still be facing those issues.

Now with same sex-couples beginning to have the rights of gay marriage in some MA, CT, ME, NH, IA, and VT, civil unions and domestic partnerships in others, and of course a commitment ceremony in any state of your choosing, how do you decide who to invite to your celebration?  We're going to try to help with Ultimate Gay Wedding question - Who Gets On The Guest List!

1. Invite who you want and who you know loves the two of you!
   
   
2. If your immediate family is not supportive of you as a gay or lesbian, or the fact that you want to "tie the knot," invite them but in a gentle way.  A personal note indicating, "I would really like you to celebrate another milestone in my life.  I know we don't agree, agree to disagree, or (whatever you want to put here), but it would mean a great deal to me to be surrounded by my family during this special occasion."  By approaching it this way, you just might be surprised at the response.  A personal note, then follow it up with the formal invitation...that way they know your serious about their attendance.